This isn’t the way that it was supposed to be… this may be your story as well, something that you can relate to I don’t know.
All I know is this isn’t the way it is supposed to be. In many ways on many levels this isn’t right.
Sure, there is the global and cosmic discussion about how sin entered the world and history through the first man and woman and that seriously impacted things and things aren’t right.
That isn’t what I’m talking about. Although; maybe it is a part of the problem here.
Things don’t go the way we planned, we don’t get that promotion that we wanted, we get fired from a job at the worst time possible.
The economy takes a down turn, we can’t find another job.
We lost all the retirement or nest egg you had when you made a good investment decision that just went south with the economy.
Or how about when you realize your home is now worth a fraction of what you paid for it… you still can’t find a job and now you couldn’t even sell your house to move if you had to.
Bankruptcy is close, foreclosure is closer.
The kids are screaming and won’t listen; they act like they are feral children when you are out in public.
Life doesn’t go as planned. Or should I say, my life hasn’t gone as I planned.
That’s not to say that you don’t like/love your life, but let’s be honest we would all change some things in our lives if we could.
What do we do when life unravels in front of our eyes?
How do we recover what we once had from the brink of destruction and despair?
Have you ever felt that way, felt like life was falling apart?
The biggest lie that you can buy when you feel that way is that you are alone. You, we, are not alone in those feelings.
Despair and depression set in when we think we are the only ones.
For us as men it is really hard when some of these things occur, because they cause us to question our manhood, our ability to be the father, husband or leader of the family we think we should be.
We begin to feel like we are half-men or incapable men or not real men.
We begin to feel like less of a man when we are unable to care for our families.
Maybe I’m the only one who struggles with being the man I feel God has called me to be.
I know what it feels like to have everything that made you feel manly, a job, money cars, respect taking away from me.
I have 3 awesome kids, a beautiful wife and a dog that need me to be strong.
When we don’t feel like we can be strong, our manhood is challenged.
How do we overcome when life doesn’t go as planned?
1. Realize where it is coming from. Remember that Satan is constantly trying to cause you to stumble. 1 Peter 5: says, Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Satan wants you to be overcome by the stress and hardship of life so that you cease to be used by God. Also, remember that God may be moving you to somewhere else that he needs you more.
2. Don’t buy the lie. Don’t buy the lie that you are worthless. Romans 5:8 tells us, But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Before we even responded to the grace of God he died for us in order to bring us to him. We are worth God himself.
3. Don’t give up. You gotta be like Cmdr. Taggart on Galaxy Quest, “Never give up, never surrender.” The moment you buy the lie or are fooled by where these feelings of worthlessness come from you have already given up. You can’t do that. The only way to defeat Satan is by continuing to fight.
Most importantly you have to Turn to God. It doesn’t matter if you realize the true nature of the attack, or don’t buy the lie
Or never give up, if you try to do it alone. You will fail, no way around it. You cannot win alone. God has left his Holy Spirit to reside within us in order to give us the strength to overcome. We can’t do it by ourselves; we have to rely on his power. You have to stay strong in the Scriptures, You have to be on your prayer game, You have to rely on others to help keep you accountable. When you begin your training the Navy’s BUD/S you get assigned a swim buddy. This person goes on every training mission and is with you no matter where you are. This is to ensure your safety during the training missions. God needs to be our swim buddy.
Life is full of stress. That is a given. How are you going to respond to that stress?
You can either respond in defeat or respond by overcoming.